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October 15 - 21, 2016

Child Discipline

“Spare the rod and spoil the child” is a very old saying which has for countless generations been proven true. It is a gem, a precious jewel which in our so called modern times has been made murky by mistaken notions of the word “love.”

The right kind of love for our children has been misdirected, to the point that parents nowadays prefer not to spank their children for fear of them becoming rebellious. Pampering children these days is more common than letting them realize the value of discipline, especially at home. Spanking them is misconstrued as cruelty, even insensibility towards their feelings.

But it should be the other way around. Parents should assert their authority over the feelings and sentiments of their children. Or they become wayward, pointless in their own self-assertion.

“What kind of adult do I want my child to become?” Raymund Sanchez asks in his article “Family Matters.” What kind, indeed? All parents want their children to be ideal citizens, models of good manners and right conduct in their respective communities. Disciplined, courteous, upright, quick to point out good from evil, spontaneous in helping fellow children in need, respectful to elders and countless more.

Child discipline is shaped from parental assertion of authority. Even in their fragile ages children also know how to measure mom and dad’s kind of discipline.

Are they only bluffing? Are they serious? They know and feel the depth and tone of tatay or nanay’s “No!” They look at you in the eye and ignore you when they see the shallow tenor of your prohibition.

Time, give time, adequate time to be with them for they always crave for your attention. They should not be KSP (kulang sa pansin or wanting in deep, genuine concern). Modern demand for daily living pressures parents to find well-paying, stable jobs to sustain the family and bring children up in an ideal environment for personality development.

The Holy Bible provides various guides for child upbringing, notably on the aspect of discipline. Many of these could be read in the book of Proverbs.

“Don’t hesitate to discipline children. A good spanking won’t kill them. As a matter of fact, it may save their lives.” “Children just naturally do silly, careless things, but a good spanking will teach them how to behave.” “Correction and discipline are good for children. If they have their own way, they will make their mothers ashamed of them.”

But here’s one advice from a priest who is a very good friend of mine: “Don’t discipline your children when you are angry.” This he said in one of his sermons.

Indeed, anger may drive parents to render cruelty rather than correction and discipline. Physical harm could cause serious wounds or even lead to death.

Parents must be discreet, sober in imposing discipline. They may assert their superiority and authority but always with love and care.

When we were in high school at Saint Joseph College, the Benedictine sisters were so strict in disciplining the students. Males and females were separated and were in separate rooms and had different sections. They would almost fear looking at one another. Girl-boy talk was taboo then. But the sisters’ kind of discipline we did not blame them, nor harbor ill-will against them.

I really love to see children kissing parents before they enter the gates of our local schools as they go to class. It warms the spirit and rends the heart.

October 8 - 14, 2016

Tony Reyes

In anyone’s life, there are always people who leave indelible marks that add colour and lastingness that make them be ever remembered by.

There are the impressions, some lasting, others fleeting. The lasting ones carve a special niche in the human heart. So did Tony Reyes in a surprising twist in my own life when he asked me to be among the pioneers of the Southern Leyte Times.

To those unfamiliar with Tony, he would seem not easily approachable and of uncommon stature. But to his intimate friends and acquaintances he was quite amiable. His was a countenance, a stature always prim, at times he stood spic-and-span. But I would rather call him always prim. And his primness would speak for his seeming distance from those who didn’t really know him.

Tony, to me, was a really simple man. He loved nature and the simplicity of the life he wished always to live till the end of his own life’s journey. He thanked the heavens for letting him live for good in Southern Leyte and notably, in Maasin which has become his love and his home for good. He loved music, and singing with friends, for him, was more than enough to satisfy his want for camaraderie and friendship. In fact, he was so grateful for befriending some members of the fabulous Stringbyrds, Maasin’s then most popular musical band, like Alex Garciano and Tanciong Tan with whom he had good times singing, dining and drinking beer, wine and tuba or coco wine. He also preferred drinking and singing with Art Siga and Boy Panelo who is the incumbent punong barangay of Tung-tunga, Maasin City.

But Tony loved nature deeply. So he decided to live in a house by the mountainside, cooled by various plants and fruit trees nearby, where zephyrs and night winds blow for the rest of his earthly journey. He loved to see the quiet, calm sea and giant waves of stormy seas and the rage of the southwest monsoon or Habagat.

Tony just wouldn’t forget that early morning fishing trip with me on my skiff (sakajan) to catch some fish in Maasin’s massive coral reefs near the shore. He was then in rubber shoes which I advised him to take off for safety reasons. As we started fishing with hook, line and sinker with our sakajan anchored some 3 fathoms deep, in less than 10 minutes Tony was pulling his line now strained by a fish struggling, fearing for its life. For some minutes, I left Tony alone to let him feel the tension and the thrill of simple fishing. As the fish got safely on board, Tony would tease me for his luck and that he was ahead of me in our race for prey. That fish he caught is common in Maasin’s reefs. It was banggisan, best eaten broiled. It was an experience Tony has limned deep in his heart.

When Tony published the Southern Leyte Times in August, 1999 with me as his associate editor, I knew then that this paper would carve for him a name in Southern Leyte and Maasin’s history. Indeed, it has and it will ever be a legacy for our province and city. At the opening ceremonies, then Governor Rosette Yniguez-Lerias was the honored guest with some close friends and acquaintances.

It doesn’t often happen that heaven lets someone come into our life to make lasting impressions. Tony was certainly that kind of man. He was simple, a nature-lover, cherished friendships, and preferred the best things in life which are free, those that leave the finest impression in the human heart.

October 8 -14, 2016

Back to basics

Words, whether spoken or written, do matter. They reflect the character of a man or the psyche of the people and nation. What comes out from the mouth or pen may be retractable or deniable, but its effect has already done damage.

Later explanation and control become less credible than the first impression. Factuality over creative imagination is the cardinal rule. So our so-called leaders should remember they carry the voice of the nation for progress or perdition.

Even if we are a populist leader, we should not presume that we speak for all people, including the silent majority or the undecided, the indifferent or uninitiated.

Palabramuyimporta, we cannot just pontificate with it for our own agenda, peeve, ideology or profound ignorance and disregard for reality. To communicate is more primordial than dislocate or alienate. Of course, there’s always the refugium peccatorum, last refuge, the APOLOGY that is alien to Donald Trump,US presidential candidate who never apologizes. A former head of state comments, “It’s getting worse before the November US election.”

Infallible lessons in history have taught us factual lessons in foreign aid or assistance despite the contrary by those who choose to forget or simply disregard for personal reasons. To cite a few glaring ones: during the Spanish invasion, Admiral Dewey of the United States fleet came to Manila Bay to battle the Spanish Armada. The latter surrendered and ended the Spanish domination over the Philippines, remember?

Gen. Douglas McArthur returned from Australia as promised to end the Japanese occupation of the Pacific, including the Philippines culminating in one of the bloodiest naval warfares at Leyte Gulf and ushered in the liberation of the country that became recipient of foreign aid and assistance. First generation of OFW’s came to America to work and provided their families back home with better lives. Infrastructure, education, transportation, agriculture and health care, among others, were brought in.

We embraced the blessings of democracy as the foundation of political governance. Until today, we have enjoyed US friendship and the corresponding fringe benefits of amity and mutual benefits of cooperation and reciprocality.

The millions of today’s generation of OFW’s gave some comfort and convenience to their families back home. And many and much more. Do we have short memories and sense of gratitude to easily forget and shall we now bite the hand that fed because of untested contrary ideologies. A true leader is not unilateral and must be consultative and sensitive to the public pulse. What is at stake is not personal or to a chosen circle of cliques and psychopants, all fanatical cheerleaders.

Well, it all boils down to personal aggrandizement or ambition to be on par with world leaders. Or the nation and millions of people that are the direct hit of misguided human ballistic missiles.


Davao City has to suffer, if need be, for the Country
Atty. Jesus G. Dureza

September 3 - 9, 2016

This is not the first time Davao City was under attack. In the early '80s, the deadly communist "sparrow" units once held sway in some of our communities and spilled blood in our city streets. Then, San Pedro Cathedral was bombed one Easter Sunday. In 2003, Davao airport was also bombed. Then our Sasa wharf. Many died and scores wounded.

But in all these tragedies, Davao City survived. We rose from our feet every time. We did not allow the bad to dominate. We went on and resumed with our normal lives as quickly as possible, although still grieving and hurting. We strongly spurned and rejected the attempts of terrorists to dictate on us to disrupt our peaceful lives. We refused to be cowed or be consumed by fear. We did not want evil to win. Over time, Davao City, although wounded and scarred, prevailed.

The bombing today tells us once more that this is another time for us Dabawenyos to rise up and confront in order to again prevail. Davao City and its people have to suffer, if need be. But it is a small price to pay for the change that the whole country is dreaming of and yearning for.

Atty. Jesus “Jess” Dureza is currently the Presidential Adviser on the Peace Process. Dureza was the former Chairman of the Philippine Press Institute and also served as Press Secretary under the Ramos and Arroyo administrations.





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President Duterte's secret visit to Maasin

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7th National Scout Venture Camp

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Ombudsman reviews Maasin land deal

Fire hits Libagon town

Another S. Leyteño dead in war vs. drugs in Metro Manila

Piñol to save Southern Leyte’s abaca industry

Farmer injured after lightning throws him off the ground


Child Discipline

Tony Reyes

Back to basics


Probable robbery in the City?

Overpriced “Jackstones”?

Unfinished Plaza?


Suspected Murderer Arrested

Frustrated Murder

Municipal employee arrested for Grave Oral defamation


PNB celebrates 100 years

Is the Gentle Giant dying?

Ringo remembered


Abuse of priviledge

Online comments from netizens

Delayed salary of Bantay Dagat





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